Let’s be honest, guys. Most of us aren’t very good with women, especially our wife. We may think we are. But many of us fail at being the husband our wife needs. Looking in the Bible we discover a lot of help for us (because we need a lot of help).
Below are some Bible helps to be a better husband. If you aren’t a husband, these are good areas to work on in your life. I guarantee if you follow these principles, you will be glad you did. If you are a woman (reading this in spite of the title), you might want to forward this to your man. This is how God expects a husband to treat his wife.
1. “Love your wife as Christ loved the Church.” (Ephesians 5:25)
Christ’s love for the church is without limits, nothing is held back. He gave His life for the church – before you loved Him. His love does not depend on your love for Him. Under God’s authority – love your wife as service–as giving your life to God. Risk your life to help your wife.
2. “Love your wife in the same way you love your body and your life.” (Ephesians 5:28-33)
You care for your body daily to be as well fed and healthy as possible. You quickly take care of any needs or desires. In the same way, care for your wife’s needs and well being. Feel your wife’s pain and illness and rejoice in her health as if it were your own life. Basically, her needs or desires whether financial, physical, emotional or spiritual in your relationship must receive your full effort. Only in this way can you love her and provide for her just as well as you do for yourself.
The Bible says that if we neglect this command, our prayers will be hindered! To be considerate, quit any irritating habits! When she needs help, do it! Help your wife with all of your energy, show your love to her with all consideration. Pray to see where you may be inconsiderate.
Realize that harsh answers, angry looks, irritated tones of voice and impatience will deeply affect your wife. Be careful what you say, even jokingly. Rejoice that she is a lady and isn’t like you – remember that she is a precious gift God has given you.
No man should look at other women or pictures of other women when he has a wife on whom he can gaze daily. A husband should become fully satisfied with his wife’s body, no matter what the size or shape. This is the true spirit of being captivated with your wife. Such a wife will feel sexy, attractive, and most of all, ladylike.
Finding other women attractive and looking at them will erode your own view of your wife. You will be less satisfied with her and she will feel less special to you. No man can build a habit of glances without subconsciously doing it in his wife’s company. And she will notice. Remember to be captivated with your wife and no one else. She will feel like the Queen of the world and you will fall further in love with her.
Tell her that she is special and is greater than any other woman on earth. Don’t just mention her physical beauty, but her care for you, her hard work, and her ladylike attributes. She longs for those words and wants to hear them from you!
Do you know any other Bible helps for husbands?