It sure wasn’t a Hannah Montana moment. Miley Cyrus got up and sang a song at the 2013 VMA (MTV’s Video Music Awards).  After the night was over, it wasn’t winners Justin Timberlake & Taylor Swift or even the reunion of N’Sync that everyone was talking about.  It was Miley Cyrus’ performance.

No, I did not watch the show. It was the following day on Good Morning America that I first saw what happened.  The next night in our local small-town paper they had an article about the performance.  It’s was everywhere.

If you haven’t seen it, don’t. Even the short clips on shown on TV were shocking.  That’s why I’m not providing any pictures. It was ridiculous.  Very sexual.  For me, it degraded women.  It presented a woman as simply the gratification of a man’s lust – an object.  Even for Hollywood, it was over the top.

If Miley Cyrus’ intention was to shock us and get us talking, I guess she got what she wanted.  But it’s time someone stood up for Biblical sexuality and modesty.

Thoughts on Sexuality

God has created us with a desire for sexual gratification. Sex is not wrong. But it can be used in the wrong way.  He has placed this union in the boundaries of a marriage of one man and one woman for one lifetime.  Just like in basketball, when you go out of bounds you get in trouble.

Satan is well aware of God’s intention to give married couples pleasure with each other. So, as usual, he has taken something good and perverted it to something bad.  That is why our world has so many sexual stimulations.  Everywhere, sex sells.  As you are viewing this article you must be aware that the internet has become a highway for lust.

We all must be on guard and not let our hearts be tempted.  And women must become aware of the visual impact their body has on men.  That leads me to…

Thoughts on Modesty

God has created us different and women will never understand how a man’s mind thinks (and vice versa).  The male mind has been created to be instantly aroused by a woman’s body.  Ladies, we’re not perverted.  It’s the way God has made us.  But men, we need to control our thoughts and be aware of our surroundings.  You can capture your thoughts and get them off the ‘wrong road.’  Stay away from places that tempt you.  Protect yourself.

But ladies, you can help by being aware of the way you dress. I read a great post on ‘Modesty’ by one of my favorite bloggers (Michael Hyatt). Here are his  “Four Guidelines for Modesty”:

  1. If you have trouble getting into it or out of it, it is probably not modest.
  2. If you have to be careful when you sit down or bend over, it is probably not modest.
  3. If people look at any part of your body before looking at your face, it is probably not modest.
  4. If you can see your most private body parts or an outline of those parts under the fabric, it is probably not modest.

I have another guideline: Ask your dad/husband if the outfit is modest?

You can read his entire article at: Whatever Happened to Modesty.

Married ladies, you can use this to your advantage.  Men are stimulated by sight.  So, look good to your husband.  Find out what excites him and dress so that his eyes are drawn to you.

Men, don’t use this for an excuse to lust.  If you’re having problems, I have a few suggestions:

  • Books: Everyman’s Battle (Arterburn), Every Heart Restored (Stoeker), Sexual Idolatry (Gallagher), The Fantasy Fallacy (Ethridge)
  • Web-based help: pure intimacy.orgxxxchurch.com (x3watch & x3pure), newcovenantmarriage.com, covenant eyes,
  • Focus on the Family has some great articles
  • Nothing’s better than personal accountability. Find another guy who you can be honest and hold you accountable.  You also may need some professional Christian counseling.

Now, back to Miley Cyrus.  I feel sorry for her.  I know she doesn’t need my sympathy, but I still feel sorry for her. She appears to be like many child stars. She wants to prove she’s all grown up. She probably lived in an unreal world and just wants to be noticed for who she is.  Even if it’s shocking.  I hope she will know that God knows her and loves her no matter what.

She’s had a lot of little girls (and boys) go crazy for her as Hannah Montana.  I hope they will have enough discernment not to follow her down this path. I can’t imagine the disappointment of those little girls’ moms.

I also pray for her. I pray that she will find the peace that money, sex, fame, or family can never give.  The peace of personally knowing God through Jesus Christ.  Her birth name is Destiny Hope Cyrus.  I pray that she finds her eternal Destiny in the Hope that only Jesus gives to all who surrender control of their lives to Him.

What did you think of Miley Cyrus’ performance or others that idolizes sex?