One day a young daughter came up to her Mother saying, “Mom, there are five things I’m going to be when I grow up.” “Oh? What are they?” “I’m going to be a doctor, a lawyer, a scientist, an archeologist, and an actress.” “Wow, that’s quite a list. But what about being a mom?” The daughter thought for a moment then answered, “No, that’s too hard.”
Two Dutch TV hosts who were sick of women saying men could never handle the worst kind of pain there is decided to find out for themselves. With cameraman in tow, Dennis Storm and Valerio Zeno, head to a cushy birthing center in Amsterdam, where two technicians hooked them up to a labor contraction simulator. The idea was to see if they could endure the pain for just two hours (a short time compared to how long the average mom is in labor).
At first, both men were laughing. Then the technician says, “If you’re laughing we haven’t set it high enough.” At one point Storm asks Zeno if he should hold his hand for comfort. “No, that’s okay,” Zeno says, grimacing. After just 15 minutes, Zeno remarks there’s no way he could withstand the pain for two hours. Both continue on, writhing, moaning and expressing disbelief. At one point the attendant tells Zeno to focus on a spot on the ceiling to get through the contraction. “I can’t focus,” he says. After trying some supplemental oxygen, Zeno finally said, “I can’t continue,”.
When asked to describe the experience, Zeno said, “I thought it was torture. I won’t dare get a woman pregnant.” Some moms have suggested this procedure be given to all fathers-to-be.
However, as painful as child birth is, the most painful part of motherhood is raising children. I still say that parenting is the most difficult job in the world. And I suppose being a mother is even more painful.
Proverbs 31 MOM.
When we arrive at Proverbs 31:10-31 we get a sense of the difficulty of being a godly woman.
It is something of a eulogy. It is written in the form of an acrostic poem, in which each of the twenty-two verses begins with a different letter of the Hebrew alphabet… If it were an English alphabet it would go something like “A” is for attentive, “B” is for busy, “C” is for caring, “D” is for diligent, and so on. In creating this list the poet is intending to say many things about the virtues of a praise-worthy woman.
- She is a woman of character, Proverbs 31:10-12
- She is a devoted homemaker, Proverbs 31:13-19, 21-24
- She is generous toward the needy, Proverbs 31:20
- She is a teacher, Proverbs 31:25-26
- She is effective as a mother, Proverbs 31:27-29
- She is God-fearing and praiseworthy, Proverbs 31:30-31
If we were to break this outline down and detail each verse we would see that such a woman has character, is industrious, managerial, entrepreneurial, influential and diligent. Such a woman is a model of generosity. She raises her children well and her husband is respected in the community because of her. She loves God and has earned the respect of her husband, children and community. She is in every way… a remarkable woman.
Perhaps rather than hold up as an unreachable goal of a ‘super mom’ we might let it serve as a reminder that rarely does a mother receive the recognition she deserves. Moms deserve our appreciation. So how does God want us to treat the moms in our lives?
“Each of you must respect his mother and father, and you must observe my Sabbaths: I am the Lord your God.” Leviticus 19:1-3
“Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and praises her.” Proverbs 31:28
Appreciate Mom Today.
Don Aycock tells of the time he goofed up and somehow ended up buying two Mother’s Day cards for his mother. He gave her one that year and put the other in his file to give to her the next year. Sadly, she passed away shortly after he gave her the first card, which made the second card essentially, undeliverable. The card in his file mirrors so much of life. That card is like so many of our good intentions that never get delivered. So it is that we need to be grateful for God’s good gifts in the moment because we may never get to express our love and gratitude if we hesitate. Don’s advice to us is that we love deeply in the moment.
A man stopped by the flower shop to order his mother some flowers to be delivered on Mother’s Day. As he got out of his car he noticed a young girl sitting on the curb crying. He asked her what was wrong and she said, “I wanted to buy my mother a rose but a rose costs $2.” The man smiled and said, “Come in with me, I will buy you a rose for your mother.” He ordered the flowers for his mother and got the girl her rose. As they left the shop the man asked the girl is he could drive her home. She said, “Yes, you can take me to my mother.” She directed him to the cemetery where he watched the girl place the rose lovingly on a freshly dug grave. The man returned to the flower shop, cancelled the delivery, picked up a bouquet and drove the two-hundred miles to his mother’s house. He had learned to love deeply and in the moment.
Honoring mothers is about respect and remembering to express our love and gratitude for the impact they have had in our lives. At times moms no doubt feel as though they are far from perfect. But we know they are intricately, wonderfully and uniquely made. Knowing how moms are made we appreciate them that much more. It is because of their comfort and presence, their labor and their love that they have given us a glimpse into the heart of a loving God.
Take time today and show your appreciation for MOM!