romance-box-1b75442dcb3e05ccbc614455b5ac2670Many people reject, or at least discount, Christianity because of its teachings on certain moral issues. Bertrand Russell, famous 20th century philosopher once said, “The worst feature of the Christian religion is its attitude toward sex.” Christianity’s teachings about sex are often viewed as oppressive and old-fashioned. Many believe the Bible’s teaching should just be abandoned.

But most of these opinions arise because of a faulty understanding of sex from a God’s viewpoint. So here’s our ‘God Question’ today: What about sex?

I want to share 4 truths about sex from the Bible:

1- Sex is Good.

The most common misconception people have about sex and the Bible is it’s bad. Many parents and pastors almost exclusively talk about sex in negative terms. The mantra is simply: Don’t do it! But this is a mistake. And in a fact, it’s unbiblical.

“That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” (Genesis 2:24-25)

God is not against sex. Absolutely not. God invented it. God blessed it. In the beginning God looked at everything He made, including sex, and said it was very good.

But God doesn’t talk about sex in vulgar terms. He treats it as beautiful and private. The book of Proverbs and especially the Song of Solomon are filled with romantic language between a husband and wife.

Sex is a wedding gift God gives a bride and groom. It is to be enjoyed and practiced to enhance unity, love, and commitment. Two souls become one. The unspoken message is “I belong completely, totally, and exclusively to you.”

2 – Sex is Valuable.

Since sex is a gift of God is it very valuable. What do you do with something valuable? You put it in a place of protection. God protects sex by putting it in a lifetime relationship of commitment and covenant between a man and wife – marriage.

In God’s eyes, marriage is one man and one woman for one lifetime. The only thing that breaks that covenant is death. God permits freedom from marriage in the event of adultery or desertion. But marriage is designed for a lifetime of love.

3 – Sex is Powerful.

All around us we witness the power of sex. Powerful politicians, religious leaders, close friends and relatives have allowed sex to destroy them. And even in their humility they try to normalize what they’ve done. In the words of the 70s song, You Light Up My Life, “How can it be so wrong when it feels so right?”

Why is sex so powerful? Because God created it to unite two people into one. It is a physical union which unites two emotionally and psychologically.

Because sex is so powerful, it often breaks the fences God has placed around it and creates destruction and broken relationships everywhere.

God has protected sex within marriage. But in the name of freedom, we live in world that doesn’t want to protect this valuable gift. Sex before marriage, sex with someone you are not married to, sex with a member of the same sex – all of these are sin. In addition, pornography and vulgar humor are destroying what God is trying to protect. Sex is meant to be pure but it is becoming dirty and filthy.

So what can we do? 

Pardon. If you have not kept God’s ideal with sex, ask His forgiveness. Just like a woman caught in adultery, He will forgive and help you overcome (John 8:1-11). 

Protect. Guard your sexual life. Paul advises to “Flee from sexual immorality” (1 Cor. 6:18). Like Joseph, you may need to run away (Gen. 39:6-18).

Practice. Sex is God’s gift. Within marriage, it should be enjoyed and celebrated often (Hebrews 13:4). 

Read more about romance & sex: Romance in the Bible, Is it wrong to live together?, 8 romantic dates inspired by Song of Solomon.

You can also read more God Questions.